How Our Inner Relationship Influences External Connections
Hey there, amazing dads! In a world that often expects men to be tough as rocks, it takes great bravery to express your feelings. So today, on Father's Mental Health Day, we want to celebrate you and emphasize the importance of showing your emotions to your kids. At VOS, we believe that embracing your emotions and being open with your children about them is an incredible gift you can give to both yourself and your little ones. So, let's dive in and explore why it's crucial for fathers to show emotions and break free from societal expectations.
Breaking the Mold:
Society has long perpetuated the idea that men should suppress their emotions, that vulnerability is a sign of weakness. But guess what? It's time to rewrite that narrative! It's time to stop teaching kids that boys don't cry and start communicating openly. We now know that suppressing emotions has a negative impact not only on physical health and can even lead to many illnesses, but also affects relationships. People who suppress emotions do not have as close relationships and are less satisfied with their social lives.
So don't be afraid to show or tell your children that you love them. Show them that you can be sad and tell them honestly what made you sad. Show them that you are sad and tell them honestly what made you sad. When you are upset, talk about it and reassure your children that it is not their fault. Kids can sense when something is wrong anyway. This way, you teach your kids that it is normal and healthy to express emotions and lead them towards emotional intelligence.
Emotional Bonding:
When fathers openly express their emotions, it creates a deep emotional connection with their children. Sharing your joys, fears, and vulnerabilities allows your kids to see you as a relatable and approachable figure. It fosters trust, understanding, and a safe space where they can freely express their own emotions without judgment.
Fostering resilience:
One of the most powerful ways to promote mental health is by normalizing emotional conversations. By being open about your own struggles, you show your kids that it's okay to ask for help and seek support when needed. Together, you can break down the barriers surrounding mental health and embark on a journey of growth, resilience, and improved well-being.
We understand that fatherhood can sometimes feel overwhelming. It takes great courage to show vulnerability, and we admire your strength. Don't be discouraged by societal pressure and inspire your children and contribute to their emotional well-being. You are not alone, VOS is here to support you and guide you through your journey. Happy Father's Mental Health Day!
Check the resources we used to learn more:
- Chapman, B. P., Fiscella, K., Kawachi, I., Duberstein, P., & Muennig, P. (2013). Emotion suppression and mortality risk over a 12-year follow-up. Journal of psychosomatic research, 75(4), 381–385. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jpsychores.2013.07.014
- Srivastava, S., Tamir, M., McGonigal, K. M., John, O. P., & Gross, J. J. (2009). The social costs of emotional suppression: a prospective study of the transition to college. Journal of personality and social psychology, 96(4), 883–897. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0014755